## Metadata - Author: [[adrienne maree brown]] - Full Title: Holding Change - Category: #books ## Highlights - how do we attend to the ways we treat each other within movement, and how do we cultivate an abolitionist attention for humans who make mistakes? ([Location 45](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=45)) - I also wrote on boundaries, defining them as “the distance at which I could love me and you simultaneously.” ([Location 674](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=674)) - I turn to quantum physics because its core helps us hold complexity. I believe our ability to recognize, accept, and move with complexity is integral to how we dismantle the current state and build new ways of being with each other. The ability to engage complexity is directly tied to our ability to imagine. Facilitation as a practice rooted in culture building and superposition can help us integrate a complex understanding of the world. ([Location 707](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=707)) - Every time people are gathered together, the hegemony of dominant culture is playing out unless there is an intention to be/do otherwise. ([Location 712](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=712)) - Being intentional about creating culture while facilitating it requires us as facilitators to find the brave spaces we are often asking participants to find. ([Location 728](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=728)) - Death is not the burden. Inequality and the violent imbalance of power is. ([Location 1031](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=1031)) - Grounded grief is a vaccine against the morbid conditions bred by white supremacy, a patriarchy that has distorted our families and relationships, a concentration of wealth that has disconnected us from nature and directed everything brilliant and beautiful to profit. Only through the compassion and loneliness and love inherent in grief can we forge a world out of the fire that will not replicate ancient hierarchies, nor replace old gods with new ones that are just as arrogant and just as punitive. On either side of change is loss. To reimagine and reshape the world, grief is a skill we need. ([Location 1056](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=1056)) - How do you give a grieving system what it needs? First and foremost, stop conflating health and productivity. Stop giving positive feedback when staff immediately return to work, appear less emotional, and/or don’t ask for appropriate accommodations following a major loss. The systems of inequality we seek to transform reject what Espinosa Jones calls “a relational culture.” Meaning: a culture of noticing and acknowledgment. Violently enforced inequality makes truth, reconciliation, reparations, and accountability impossible. ([Location 1078](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B08GGBSY5T&location=1078))