## Metadata - Author: [[Sigrid Nunez]] - Full Title: The Friend - Category: #books ## Highlights - try to think of a good book that, no matter how dark the subject, does not include something comic. It’s because a person has a sense of humor that we feel we can trust them, says Milan Kundera.) ([Location 760](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0721HK732&location=760)) - You write about experiences partly to understand what they mean, partly not to lose them to time. To oblivion. But there’s always the danger of the opposite happening. Losing the memory of the experience itself to the memory of writing about it. Like people whose memories of places they’ve traveled to are in fact only memories of the pictures they took there. In the end, writing and photography probably destroy more of the past than they ever preserve of it. ([Location 2515](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0721HK732&location=2515)) - Tags: [[favorite]] - What we miss—what we lose and what we mourn—isn’t it this that makes us who, deep down, we truly are. To say nothing of what we wanted in life but never got to have. ([Location 2535](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0721HK732&location=2535))