## Metadata - Author: [[Svend Brinkmann]] - Full Title: The Joy of Missing Out - Category: #books ## Highlights - The ability to care enables us to surrender to something else (for example, the better argument or the loved one), and in doing so to endow our life with form and our deeds with integrity. However, it also involves a risk of disappointment and defeat – perhaps it will turn out that my argument is weaker than that of the person I am debating; or perhaps the person I love will leave me. In these circumstances, we should, again, practise willing one thing – the good – by placing greater emphasis on truth than on winning the debate or on the fact that our love may remain unrequited. Purity of heart is to will one thing. Not to gain something in return – in which case, it is not purity of heart, but a financial transaction – but because what we care about is worth wanting per se and therefore is in itself one thing. ([Location 720](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07RSLNHWG&location=720))