Doucleff, Michaeleen. _Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans_, 2021. # Progressive Summary # Key Points Praising children too much sets up sibling rivalry. Incorporate kids into adult activities. Welcome the contributions of kids, rather than correcting them. Let them practise as much as possible, and don't judge their mistakes. Encourage behaviour by linking it to being big or playing an adult role. ## Anger - When you feel anger toward a child, stay quiet and wait for the anger to pass. If you speak, a child will feel your anger. So, best to stay silent. - If you can’t control your anger, walk away or distance yourself from the child. Return when you are calm. - Teach yourself to have less (or even no) anger toward children. - Change how you view children’s behavior. Expect young children to misbehave and cause problems. They aren’t pushing your buttons or trying to manipulate you. They’re simply irrational beings who haven’t learned proper behavior yet. You have to teach them. (Their misbehavior doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.) - Never argue (or even negotiate) with a child. Arguing gives the child practice at arguing while you model the behavior yourself. If you start arguing with a child, stop talking and walk away. - Stop forcing children to do things. Forcing causes conflict, erodes communication, and builds anger (on both sides). Use the tools in the next chapter to encourage proper behavior instead of forcing it. # Resonances # Quotes